Have you ever picked a fight right after something really good happened? This episode is about why we do that (and how to stop).
The other day, I almost exploded something that didn’t need to be exploded.
I had just left an incredible workshop. I felt expansive. Energized. Abundant.
And on the drive home, I caught myself criticizing someone in my head and wanting to “reality check” something that didn’t actually need checking.
In this episode, I unpack the concept of the upper limit problem and how we unconsciously sabotage joy, peace, and expansion… especially in relationships.
We talk about why worry turns into criticism, why arguments aren’t usually about what they seem, and the one question that can interrupt the spiral in real time.
What you’ll learn…
What the “upper limit problem” is
The 4 core fears that drive self-sabotage
Why we create conflict when things feel too peaceful
How worry thoughts pull others into negativity
The question that can stop a fight before it starts
How to self-soothe instead of seeking reassurance externally
This episode is for you if…
You pick fights when things feel calm
You struggle with self-sabotage
You spiral after moments of joy or expansion
You fear outshining others or being “too much”
You want to grow your capacity for peace and abundance
Your invitation…
The next time you feel the urge to criticize, argue, or spiral, ask yourself:
What happened right before this?
If this episode resonates, you’re invited into the Codependency Alchemy membership, where we practice this work in real time through daily prompts, reflections, and support as you grow your capacity for joy, safety, and self-trust.
