Welcome to Codependency Alchemy.
Hi babe, I’m so glad you’re here. My name is Alyssa, and if you’ve found me in this sacred space, it’s probably because of something I’ve shared on my Instagram, TikTok, or podcast that has resonated with you. Maybe you’ve been in my world for a while, or maybe you’re just discovering me—either way, I’m excited to welcome you into this space on Substack, our soft place to land on the etherwebs.
Codependency Alchemy is where deep healing happens. It’s a space where we explore the root causes of our patterns—like codependency, anxious attachment, and the mother wound—while learning how to create authentic, nurturing connections. Here, I help you unravel the layers of your inner world through shadow work, inner child healing, and somatic practices to reclaim your power in relationships.
My Healing Journey (the real and messy version)
It was 2019 when my unresolved trauma came roaring to the surface, and my whole life exploded in front of my eyes. At the time, I had no idea that I was still carrying trauma from sexual abuse I had experienced as a child. I truly thought I had moved past it, but as it turns out, there was a lot bubbling under the surface and it was negatively impacting my relationships.
I didn’t know about concepts like insecure attachment or codependency. It wasn’t until I sabotaged my four-year relationship and jumped into a trauma bond with someone from a past situationship that the truth began to unravel. That’s when I recognized my anxious attachment and realized I was trying to reconcile my trauma with someone who only mirrored the abandonment, rejection, and betrayal I had faced in childhood.
It was a dark night of the soul—a moment that forced me to take accountability for my own actions. I had spent years blaming others for my failed relationships, but the truth was, I had my own work to do. The moment I committed to addressing my trauma through shadow work and inner child healing, everything changed.
Through this deep inner work, I began to understand my destructive patterns and the underlying fears that had been controlling my life. I started exploring attachment styles and codependency, which brought clarity and transformation to my relationships.
Building This Space
In 2020, as I started sharing my story on social media, I realized that I wasn’t alone in my struggles. I connected with so many others who were grappling with the same feelings of frustration and disconnection in their relationships. This realization sparked the creation of Codependency Alchemy—first the podcast, and now the membership.
I want to invite you to join a community of like-minded souls who are healing and growing together. In just one year, our membership has grown to over 200 members, each on their own unique journey. We’re a supportive and nurturing space where you can feel seen, heard, and held as you explore your codependent patterns and reclaim your power.
Codependency Alchemy: The Membership
As a Codependency Alchemy member, you’ll get access to exclusive resources designed to support your healing journey. This is not just a passive experience; it’s an active and engaged community where you’ll receive the tools, support, and connection you need to reclaim your voice, set healthy boundaries, and build deeper, more authentic relationships.
Member Benefits include:
Substack Lives: Real-time conversations and hot-seat coaching to support you in what you’re currently navigating in your relationship.
Subscriber-Only Chat: Focused discussions where we’ll tackle the real-life issues you’re facing— anything from scripts for setting boundaries to navigating relationship challenges and conflicts.
Exclusive Content Library: Access to a growing library of masterclasses, meditations, and insightful posts and tools to guide you through your journey, all on-demand.
Member Session Podcast Episodes: As a member you get the chance to book a free 1:1 session with me that will be shared on Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast. Every month I release 2 sessions to members.
Community: Join discussions and cultivate community with like-minded souls on their journey of healing codependency and the mother wound.
At just $9/month, this is the most accessible way to receive one-on-one support from me and get the tools you need to create real shifts in your relationships and your life.
How It Will Transform Your Life
When you join Codependency Alchemy, you’ll start to notice changes within the first month. You’ll feel empowered to stop people-pleasing and start setting boundaries that feel good. You’ll learn how to communicate your needs effectively and navigate difficult conversations without fear. Over time, you’ll create deeper, more fulfilling relationships where you feel truly seen and heard.
As members have shared, the support they’ve received in our community has been more transformative than years of therapy. This is a space where you can not only heal but thrive. Many of our members have experienced a profound shift in their relationships—they’re finally expressing their needs with confidence, setting boundaries that are respected, and embracing their true selves without fear of rejection.
A Few Stories From Our Members:
Luce joined the membership struggling with intimacy. She felt guarded, even though things were improving in her relationship. Through shadow work, we uncovered the deep-rooted reasons behind her emotional walls, and over time, she built trust with herself and her inner children, ultimately experiencing intimacy in a way that felt safe and nurturing.
Andy came to Codependency Alchemy after feeling disconnected from other support groups. She had searched for a community that truly resonated with her, and when she found us, she felt like he had finally found her people.
Lisa joined the membership at 54, realizing that codependent patterns had been running her relationships for years. After diving in, she felt empowered to break free from these patterns and create healthier, more balanced connections.
Why Join?
You don’t need to have it all figured out to join. All you need is a willingness to learn, grow, and explore. This community is for those who are committed to breaking old patterns, healing deep wounds, and creating authentic relationships. With weekly support, live coaching, a comprehensive library of resources, and a supportive community, you will experience real change.
Join Codependency Alchemy today and take the first step toward healing, reclaiming your power, and building relationships where you feel truly seen, heard, and valued.
Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast
If I’ve learned anything since starting the podcast in Spring 2023 it is that so many people share similar experiences, and that there is something deeply healing and comforting in knowing that you’re not alone. I share my most cringe stories about my breakup, situationship, navigating unhealthy patterns and dynamics in my current healthy relationship, and more. Learn about how I've used shadow work, inner child healing, and somatics for healing unresolved trauma and explore the complexities of codependency and anxious attachment in romantic relationships, family dynamics, and friendships.
What people are saying about The Membership…
"I am so excited to commit to myself by signing up to receive your work in The Membership. I’m unraveling my codependent ways and this act in itself is evidence to me that change is coming and I’m so ready. Thank you for everything you put out into the world." - Luce (paid subscriber)
"I have spent a long time looking for helpful and compassionate resources on codependency after my therapist helped me realize I have a lot of codependent tendencies that are strongly impacting my quality of life. I found Alyssa's podcast and felt like I was finally seen! After taking your Codependency Alchemy course, I was eager to keep learning from Alyssa. I'm so excited to join The Membership!" - Samantha (paid subscriber)
"I am on a healing and growth journey and your podcast is helping immensely, so I thought I’d take the next step here and join The Membership. Thanks for what you do.” - Allie (paid subscriber)
"I’ve been in crises and your podcast has been so very healing for me. Thank you. Yours is the first podcast that I’ve ever listened to! Very much looking forward to joining your community meetings and working with you to help me through this life changing/saving experience." - Jill (paid subscriber)
"It feels very nice to connect with you and this community. I am so grateful Spirit led me to you as a mentor and guide as I find my way through healing my past and generational trauma. Your willingness to be vulnerable and share your personal experiences as examples of how we can relearn how to navigate the world with healthy attachments and regulated emotions, is perfect for me. Thank you!" - Kimberle (paid subscriber)
"I supported your work because I'm about to get married to a man that I've had a complicated relationship with and as opposites it has been a struggle to lean in and fully devote myself to him and our relationship and would like to work on myself so I can be a more present partner.” - Kelli (paid subscriber)
"Your podcast has really been an answer to the absence of a community element that I've felt since trying and trying but never finding an AlAnon or CODA group that worked for me. So often it really was focused on relationship with an addict. There was a generational divide. Or a spiritual one. So grateful to support and be supported because community is everything in this healing journey!” - Andy (paid subscriber)
"I've been following for a couple months and your content has been really valuable. Thanks for being a great resource!" - Rachael (paid subscriber)
