How to get around your blocks
In this episode we are going to talk about what they are, how to spot them, and the 3 questions that help you move through them.
Have you ever found yourself doing all the right things—the journaling, the self-reflection, the inner work—and still feel stuck?
Like something is in the way, but you can’t name it?
That’s a block.
I hosted a live podcast episode on Substack to unpack what blocks really are and how we can gently move through them, especially when we’re doing deep work like shadow work, inner child healing, or navigating codependency in relationships.
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What are blocks?
Blocks are not a sign that something’s wrong with you. They’re not proof that you're broken or unhealed. They're protective parts of you.
Most of us carry internal protectors—parts of us that once had to shut down, avoid, or perform in order to stay safe. These protectors become “blocks” when they resist the work we’re trying to do now. But they’re not bad. They’re wise, in their own way.
Blocks can show up as:
Resistance to doing the work
Procrastination or distraction
Overthinking or intellectualizing
Shutting down emotionally
Feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or foggy
Or just thinking: “I don’t know why, but I can’t seem to move forward”
How do we know when we’re blocked?
You might be bumping into a block if:
You feel stuck no matter how much you know better
You see the same patterns playing out in your relationships or choices
You have a deep desire for change, but no clarity on what to do next
You’re looping in shame, guilt, or fear
You’ve “done the work” but still feel disconnected from your truth or power
The thing is—blocks often show up right before we’re about to meet something powerful within us. The closer we get to truth, the louder the protectors get.
What to do when blocks come up…
Ask these 3 questions. These three questions have changed everything for me in my own healing journey. When you find yourself stuck, repeating a pattern, or unsure why you can’t move forward—try gently asking:
What is this part protecting me from seeing more clearly? Is there a truth I haven’t wanted to face? A pattern I’ve ignored? A wound I’ve buried?
What are you protecting me from? Often, the part is trying to keep you safe from pain, rejection, shame, abandonment, or fear of change.
What are you afraid will happen if I look at this? Sometimes we’re afraid that if we really see the wound, we’ll fall apart. Or it’ll mean something scary about us. But naming the fear disarms it.
These questions aren’t about fixing anything. They’re about building a relationship with the part of you that’s afraid—and that’s where true healing begins.
✨ A final note, babe…
Blocks don’t mean you're failing.
They mean you're expanding.
You’ve hit the edge of what your current tools can hold, and something deeper is asking to be felt, seen, and honored. You don’t have to push. You just have to listen.
And if you want more support with this kind of work, this is the exact kind of thing we explore inside the Codependency Alchemy membership—through weekly shadow work prompts, audio practices, and monthly live calls.
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