August Events for Codependency Alchemy
Come join our live sessions and do shadow work and inner child healing around codependency patterns that might be negatively impacting your relationships.
Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to grow. Like really grow—even when it’s scary. I’ve been sitting with the fear that if I change, I might lose people I love. And honestly? Sometimes that does happen. There’s grief in letting go of the old version of ourselves, even when we know we’re ready for more.
This month inside Codependency Alchemy, I’m bringing two theme options into the community to hold space for exactly that— what to do when you’re afraid to make changes, and what to do when you’re waiting on someone else to change. Both hold so much tenderness, and both invite us to stop playing small.
Last month in the membership
In July, we explored the difference between empathy and emotional caretaking—and how feeling everyone’s feelings isn’t always a gift, but sometimes a survival response. Inside, you’ll find tools to help you unlearn over-responsibility, come back to your own energy, and start feeling safe in your body again.
I also shared an entry From My Journal ✍🏾 — a raw reflection from a recent rupture in my relationship. It started with a fight about fertility testing, but underneath it was a deep need to feel like I had some control in a journey that has felt so uncertain. If you’ve ever reached for control to avoid the discomfort of not knowing… this one’s for you.
August Themes
This month, I’m holding space for the tender tension between who we’ve been and who we’re becoming.
I’ve got two themes on my heart, and I’d love for you to vote for the one that’s most alive for you right now. Both are invitations to be gentle with yourself while telling the truth about what you’re ready to shift. (Trust me, I’m navigating these themes right now, too!)
Theme #1: When you’re afraid to make changes
This theme is about the fear that comes up when you know something needs to shift, but you’re afraid of what change might cost you. Whether it's fear of failure, rejection, or being alone—it’s real. But so is your longing for something more.
It might show up as…
Staying in relationships, jobs, or roles that drain you
Avoiding decisions because you're afraid of making the “wrong” one
Doubting your desires and second-guessing your intuition
Shrinking yourself to keep the peace
Feeling stuck between comfort and your calling
When we tend to this, we…
Build safety in our nervous system for change
Learn to trust our desires without needing guarantees
Start making choices that honor who we’re becoming
Theme #2: When you’re waiting for someone else to change
This theme is about the hope and heartbreak of holding on—especially when you’ve grown and someone else hasn’t. Whether it’s a partner, friend, or family member, this pattern can keep us in limbo, dimming our light while we wait for them to “get it.”
It might show up as…
Over-functioning or over-explaining in relationships
Feeling resentful that you’re “doing the work” alone
Holding back your truth to avoid conflict or losing them
Hoping they'll change if you’re just more patient, loving, or understanding
Confusing love with responsibility
When we tend to this, we…
Reclaim energy we’ve been giving away
Grieve what’s not ours to carry or control
Choose connection rooted in mutual growth, not potential
🗳 Make sure you vote in the poll above and tell me which one you’re ready to contemplate and work with this month!
Want more support this month? Here’s what’s inside the membership
If you’re craving more than just the podcast or posts— if you want to actually do the work alongside a community of 275+ others who get it, then the Codependency Alchemy Membership was built for you.
Inside, you’ll get:
💾 Access to The Gems 💎— my full archive of healing tools, journal prompts, and rituals with tangible practices you can start using today to regulate your nervous system, set boundaries, and reconnect with yourself
🎧 20+ Masterclasses + Guided Meditations to help you identify and heal codependent patterns, stop self-abandoning, and feel safe being fully seen in your relationships
💬 Weekly shadow work threads inside our private member chat where you receive prompts to contemplate the root of your patterns and share what’s alive for you while getting personalized reflections from me
💌 Exclusive From My Journal ✍🏾 entries that give you an intimate look at how I’m doing this work, too
That’s less than $6/month for over $900 in healing tools, support, and content you can return to again and again.
August Events for Codependency Alchemy
These events are most easily accessible on the Substack app, so if you haven’t downloaded it yet, you can do so by clicking the link below!
🎙️Live Podcast on Substack Live
August 6th | 11am (PST)
Join us for our live recording for the podcast. Together we’ll dive into topics, questions, and reflections that are alive for us. These lives are now being shared as a podcast episode on Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast!
💬 Shadow Work Sunday
Every Sunday in the Codependency Alchemy Chat
Every Sunday you’ll get shadow work prompts dropped in your inbox. This is where we take our healing to the next level. With over 275 members, it is clear that we are looking for a place to process, vent, share, and be witnessed. The Shadow Work Sunday Chat is a place for you to go to explore the theme of the month and be seen in wherever you are on your journey: struggle, grief, joy, celebration, confusion— all of it is welcome!
