I really appreciate you pointing out how his tone when responding to your request “is now a good time to talk about this” was soft and that was really helpful. I also really appreciate you addressing that’s not always the case. I would love to hear more about how to handle it when the response is not soft and receptive and does feel unsafe. There may be another post/episode addressing this & I haven’t seen yet. I’m new around here & diving in!
Hi!!! I am so glad you are here, and this is a beautiful question! I'm not sure if I have a specific episode that speaks to this, they all tend to blob together now in my head! haha. I will say though, when it does not feel safe, that means we get to put the conversation on hold, or table it. Actually, now that I say that, there is an episode that comes to mind where I held a boundary with my partner when he was clearly dysregulated/being unkind.
But all that to say, asking to come back to this later is typically a good way to go in those moments when the conversation doesn't feel safe. I hope that helps!
I really appreciated this episode, and the timing was spot on. I am working so hard on not getting activated during a conflict or when we're not on the same page. Thanks so much!
I’m so glad this episode was right on time for you and was supportive! I love when we hear exactly what we need at the moment we need it! Remember— it’s ok to get activated durning conflict! The medicine is staying curious, regulating yourself so that the part of you that is activated feels seen, heard, and gets its needs met, and THEN approaching the conversation/conflict from a resourced place where you can share what you uncovered! Pausing to do this work and coming back to the conversation it was I think helped it go so smoothly for us! 🙏🏾✨
This episode was SO helpful, thank you! I really appreciate hearing how you approach/ navigate conversations and conflict in your relationship, it makes it a lot easier to apply it in my own 😊
I really appreciate you pointing out how his tone when responding to your request “is now a good time to talk about this” was soft and that was really helpful. I also really appreciate you addressing that’s not always the case. I would love to hear more about how to handle it when the response is not soft and receptive and does feel unsafe. There may be another post/episode addressing this & I haven’t seen yet. I’m new around here & diving in!
Hi!!! I am so glad you are here, and this is a beautiful question! I'm not sure if I have a specific episode that speaks to this, they all tend to blob together now in my head! haha. I will say though, when it does not feel safe, that means we get to put the conversation on hold, or table it. Actually, now that I say that, there is an episode that comes to mind where I held a boundary with my partner when he was clearly dysregulated/being unkind.
https://open.substack.com/pub/alyssaaazander/p/did-i-just-do-that-healing-anxious-443?r=1p636g&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web
But all that to say, asking to come back to this later is typically a good way to go in those moments when the conversation doesn't feel safe. I hope that helps!
I really appreciated this episode, and the timing was spot on. I am working so hard on not getting activated during a conflict or when we're not on the same page. Thanks so much!
I’m so glad this episode was right on time for you and was supportive! I love when we hear exactly what we need at the moment we need it! Remember— it’s ok to get activated durning conflict! The medicine is staying curious, regulating yourself so that the part of you that is activated feels seen, heard, and gets its needs met, and THEN approaching the conversation/conflict from a resourced place where you can share what you uncovered! Pausing to do this work and coming back to the conversation it was I think helped it go so smoothly for us! 🙏🏾✨
What’s coming through is this shadow work prompt: “what am I making us not being on the same page mean about me? About us/our relationship?”
This episode was SO helpful, thank you! I really appreciate hearing how you approach/ navigate conversations and conflict in your relationship, it makes it a lot easier to apply it in my own 😊
Thank you so much for that reflection, love! I’m so glad these types of shares are helpful in navigating similar situations in your relationship! 🙏🏾✨