Have you ever chased connection until you felt rejected one too many times and then suddenly found yourself pulling away? Maybe you stopped texting first. Became less available. Told yourself you were finally protecting your peace. But somewhere underneath it, a part of you hoped they would notice the distance and come closer.
In this episode, we’re looking at the push-pull pattern from a different angle: how our attempts to create safety can quietly become the very thing keeping the cycle going, and why understanding what you’re actually trying to get underneath the reaching, withdrawing, and shutting down can change the way you see your relationships.
In this episode we explore…
Why one person moves closer while the other creates space
How failed attempts at connection can eventually make the anxious partner pull away
Why withdrawing can become an unconscious way of seeking reassurance
How childhood experiences can shape our need for control and agency in adult relationships
The more empowering question to ask when the same relationship dynamic keeps repeating
How to turn regret about past relationships into wisdom you can actually use
This episode is for you if...
You keep finding yourself in anxious/avoidant or push-pull relationships
You chase connection until you feel rejected, then suddenly shut down
You judge yourself for how you’ve behaved in past relationships
You keep wondering why the same relationship dynamic follows you
Your invitation…
Instead of asking, “Why do I keep ending up in relationships like this?” try asking yourself:
“What is the lesson I’m being invited to learn when I find myself in this relationship dynamic?”
Actually write the answer down, and if you feel open to sharing, leave it in the comments.
Maybe this relationship isn’t proof that something is wrong with you. Maybe it’s illuminating something you’re finally ready to see.
And if you want to go beyond understanding the push-pull pattern and actually tend to the part of you living inside of it, last week’s members-only episode is a guided Shadow Work + Inner Child Healing practice specifically for this dynamic.
