I really appreciate your analogy of the vessel with people pleasing. I have been in an abusive relationship for 6 years and I am tapped out all the time. It’s due to putting his needs before my own for so long. Is this also why I require so much down and alone time?
Hi Meagan! It certainly could be! If your vessel is empty because you're pouring into them, then how would you have any life force energy to live? The vessel is important to remember that when you pour into him, that it doesn't actually fuel them either- it might feel good for them for a minute, but it's fleeting. The most loving thing you can do is for both of you to focus on yourselves and your needs 💛
That has been my experience. It does seem fleeting to him. Ok. Yes and this is also validating as I am working to feel my own vessel and that has been problematic in my relationship. 🤍
I really appreciate your analogy of the vessel with people pleasing. I have been in an abusive relationship for 6 years and I am tapped out all the time. It’s due to putting his needs before my own for so long. Is this also why I require so much down and alone time?
Hi Meagan! It certainly could be! If your vessel is empty because you're pouring into them, then how would you have any life force energy to live? The vessel is important to remember that when you pour into him, that it doesn't actually fuel them either- it might feel good for them for a minute, but it's fleeting. The most loving thing you can do is for both of you to focus on yourselves and your needs 💛
That has been my experience. It does seem fleeting to him. Ok. Yes and this is also validating as I am working to feel my own vessel and that has been problematic in my relationship. 🤍
Also I assume by being on edge with not knowing what was coming next.