As a Codependency Alchemy member, you have access to a library of resources aimed at helping you bring deeper awareness to the root of your codependency tendencies. Members looking to get the most out of their membership and wanting to start making profound shifts in their life can access previous masterclasses, meetups, private podcast episodes, and guided meditations.
Understanding Shame and Guilt
Shame and guilt are powerful emotions that deeply impact our lives, especially for those of us who experience codependency. During the masterclass, we began by exploring the difference between these two emotions:
Guilt is feeling bad about something you’ve done, focusing on actions: “I did something wrong.”
Shame is feeling bad about who you are, focusing on identity: “I am something wrong.”
Both emotions can be catalysts for growth, but they can also keep us stuck in cycles of self-criticism and pain if we don’t bring our awareness to them.
Why Shame and Guilt Show Up
Shame and guilt are like the water we use to feed a core belief we have about ourselves around our lack of worthiness, and these are some of the ways that they can show up:
The voices from our past continue to tell us we’re not enough
Struggling with self-care and boundary-setting
The pressure to be perfect fuels feelings of inadequacy and our fear of failure
