For years, weβve heard that setting boundaries is the key to getting our needs met in relationships. Many say their partners donβt respect their boundaries. Letβs be honest, weβve both been known to say it at least once or twice, am I right? Itβs easy to think that most of us are in relationships with partners who donβt respect us at all. But here's my unpopular opinion: thatβs not really the whole story.